Family Resources Books

Adoption Related Books

The Connected Child: Bring hope and healing to your adoptive family

The adoption of a child is always a joyous moment in the life of a family. Some adoptions, though, present unique challenges. Welcoming these children into your family--and addressing their special needs--requires care, consideration, and compassion.

Nurturing Adoptions: Creating Resilience After Neglect and Trauma

From the author of Attaching in Adoption comes this new tool designed to help placement professionals and families understand how new research on the impact of neglect, abuse, early trauma, and institutionalization on the developing brains of children.

Healing Parents: Helping Wounded Children Learn to Trust & Love

Healing Parents gives parents/caregivers the information, tools, support, self-awareness, and hope they need to help a wounded child heal emotional wounds and improve behaviorally, socially, and morally. This book is a toolbox filled with practical strategies and research that helps parents/caregivers understand their child, learn to respond in a constructive way, and create a healthy environment. Parents/caregivers will learn to develop their child's positive beliefs and establish trust.

Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother

While books about adoption proliferate, none of them addresses the subject of open and interracial adoption like Jana Wolff's personal and frank account does in Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother. Often irreverent, always insightful, surprisingly funny and stunningly honest, Secret Thoughts tells it like it is: How it feels for a woman to look nothing like her child and to know the woman who does. 

Making Sense of Adoption: A Parent's Guide

When to tell, What to tell, and How to tell. Children who are adopted have predictable and often unspoken concerns about themselves and how they joined their families. In this wise and timely guide, Lois Melina, author of the classic manual Raising Adopted Children, helps parents anticipate and respond to those concerns in ways that build self-esteem. Through sample conversations, reassuring advice, and age-specific activities parents will find answers to many questions of the "hows" and "whens" of adoption.

Before You Were Mine: Discovering Your Adopted Child's Lifestory

Written by an adoptive mother and an adoptee daughter, Before You Were Mine offers a unique Christian perspective on creating a Lifebook that commemorates your child’s birth story. Complete with worksheets and advice from adoptive families, you’ll find that remembering and celebrating your child’s history can be fun, rewarding, and even redemptive. You’ll discover how to uncover and organize details of their birth story, make the story both truthful and positive, and use the Lifebook to trace God’s faithfulness. 

Three Little Words: A Memoir

by: Ashley Rhodes-Courter
An inspiring true story of the tumultuous nine years Ashley Rhodes-Courter spent in the foster care system, and how she triumphed over painful memories and real-life horrors to ultimately find her own voice. "Sunshine, you're my baby and I'm your only mother. You must mind the one taking care of you, but she's not your mama." Ashley Rhodes-Courter spent nine years of her life in fourteen different foster homes, living by those words. As her mother spirals out of control, Ashley is left clinging to an unpredictable, dissolving relationship, all the while getting pulled deeper and deeper into the foster care system.

Adoption Wisdom: A Guide to the Issues and Feelings of Adoption

by  Marlou Russell PhD
ADOPTION WISDOM offers insight and understanding of adoptees, birth parents, and adoptive parents. Includes chapters on Adoption Awareness, Basic Truths of Adoption, Search and Reunion, and an Ideal Adoption. ADOPTION WISDOM is a book for anyone who wants to kinow more about the lifelong impact of adoption.

The Incredible Hulk Pees the Bed: A Child's View of Childhood PTSD

by Barbara Cummins Tantrum LMHC 

Sam looks like a normal kid, but secretly he in the Incredible Hulk. This book describes, from Sam’s point of view, the experience of being a foster child with a traumatic background (and a diagnosis of PTSD) joining a permanent family. Sam describes his rages, vulnerabilities, power struggles, and simple strategies by his new parents to help him feel safe. Sam has the automatic “fight” response (think fight/flight/freeze) when he feels threatened, even though his new family is safe. This book normalizes therapy, common fears and behaviors, the experience of a traumatic past, trying to be comfortable in a new family, and using tools to help regulate emotions. This book is useful for family use as well as use in a therapeutic setting.

Behavior Related Books

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight, and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson demystify the meltdowns and aggravation, explaining the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids can seem—and feel—so out of control. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth. Raise calmer, happier children using twelve key strategies.

Too Loud, Too Bright, Too Fast, Too Tight: What to Do If You Are Sensory Defensive in an Overstimulating World

We all know what it feels like to be irritated by loud music, accosted by lights that are too bright, or overwhelmed by a world that moves too quickly. But millions of people suffer from Sensory Defensive Disorder (SD), a common affliction in which people react to harmless stimuli not just as a distracting hindrance, but a potentially dangerous threat.

The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children

Screaming, swearing, crying, hitting, kicking, spitting, biting...these are some of the challenging behaviors we see in kids who are having difficulty meeting our expectations. These behaviors often leave parents feeling frustrated, angry, overwhelmed, and desperate for answers. In this book, Dr. Ross Greene helps you understand why and when your child does these things and how to respond in ways that are nonpunitive and effective.

Parenting With Love And Logic

This parenting book shows you how to raise self-confident, motivated children who are ready for the real world. Learn how to parent effectively while teaching your children responsibility and growing their character. Establish healthy control through easy-to-implement steps without anger, threats, nagging, or power struggles.

Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting From Birth to Six Years

Take the exhaustion out and put the fun into parenting your little one. This book is the tool parents of little ones have been waiting for. The tools in Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood will give you the building blocks you need to create children who grow up to be responsible, successful teens and adults. And as a bonus you will enjoy every stage of your child's life and look forward to sharing a lifetime of joy with them

Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five

What’s the single most important thing you can do during pregnancy? What does watching TV do to a child’s brain? What’s the best way to handle temper tantrums? Scientists know. In his New York Times bestseller Brain Rules, Dr. John Medina showed us how our brains really work—and why we ought to redesign our workplaces and schools. Now, in Brain Rules for Baby, he shares what the latest science says about how to raise smart and happy children from zero to five. 

Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children With Severe Behaviors

Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control covers in detail the effects of trauma on the body-mind and how trauma alters children's behavioral responses. The first four chapters help parents and professionals clearly understand the neurological research behind the basic model given in this book, deemed, 'The Stress Model.' While scientifically based in research, it is written in an easy to understand and easy to grasp format for anyone working with or parenting children with severe behaviors. The next seven chapters are individually devoted to seven behaviors typically seen with attachment-challenged children. 

Free: How to End Lying Book

Why Kids Lie and How To End It Now!